The Loneliness No One Talks About After a Breakup as a Single Parent

Loneliness as a single parent it’s not just being alone in your house once the kids go to bed.

It’s not just the quiet time.

It’s the fact that many single parents feel so isolated in a way that’s hard to explain unless you’ve lived it.

Because when you go through a breakup, you don’t just lose a relationship, you often lose your sense of safety, your routine, the future you had planned, and in many cases… you lose friendships and your social circle.

When the Breakup Doesn’t Just Change Your Relationship, It Changes Your Whole Life

One of the biggest things I hear from single parents is this:

“I didn’t realise how many friends I’d lose.”

And it’s true.

Sometimes friends pick sides. Sometimes people go quiet because they don’t know what to say. Sometimes your world becomes so different that you don’t even feel like you fit into the same circles anymore. Sometimes you're just so mentally and emotionally exhausted you have no time to socialise, other times you simply can't even afford to leave the house.

And on top of that, when you’re parenting solo, it becomes harder to even access support.

You can’t just go out for a spontaneous coffee.

You can’t always take calls when you need to.

You can’t just “catch up” the way you used to.

So, what happens?

You start managing everything on your own.

The Hardest Part: Not Knowing Who to Talk To

Even when you do have people around you, a lot of single parents feel like they don’t have the right people.

You might have family, but they don’t get it.

You might have friends, but they can’t relate and they just don't understand why you're making it a big deal (because it is a big deal).

Because you don’t want to put that burden anyone else. You don’t want to come across as being whingy. So, you stay quiet.

You might have people you can talk to, but you don’t feel safe being fully honest and knowing who you can trust. You don’t always know who’s still in contact with your ex, or whether what you share might be passed on. And because of that, a lot of single parents end up staying quiet — even when they really need sup

And then there’s the bigger one:

You don’t know whose advice to listen to.

Because after a breakup, everyone has an opinion.

People tell you what you “should” do.

They project their own experiences onto you.

They speak from their own wounds.

They speak from their own triggers.

And suddenly, instead of feeling supported, you feel more confused than ever.

The Problem With Relying on Social Media for Support

Let’s talk about the thing most people don’t want to admit:

A lot of single parents turn to social media because it feels like the only place where other people “get it.”

And at first, it can feel comforting.

You find other single parents.

You join groups.

You watch videos.

You read posts.

You feel less alone.

But there’s a downside that not enough people talk about.

Because social media support isn’t always real support.

A lot of the time, what you get is:

• People venting and spiralling

• People projecting their insecurities onto you

• People dumping their anger and triggers into the conversation

• People judging you for choices they don’t understand

• People being harsh, bitter, or hateful because they’re hurting

And the truth is… when you’re already emotionally fragile, that kind of environment can make you feel worse.

Instead of feeling understood, you feel anxious. Instead of feeling supported, you feel overwhelmed. Instead of feeling clearer, you feel more confused.

And the worst part?

You still feel alone.

The Silent Reality: No One Checks In

This is the part that breaks my heart the most.

Single parents can go days, sometimes even weeks, without anyone genuinely checking in and asking:

“How are you really going?”

“How are you coping?”

“Are you okay?”

“What do you need right now?”

And I don’t mean someone asking out of politeness.

I mean someone checking in because they actually care, and they actually want to support you.

When you’re a single parent, you’re so often the one doing everything for everyone else.

You’re making sure the kids are okay.

You’re making sure the bills are paid.

You’re keeping the house running.

You’re showing up to work.

You’re holding it together.

And meanwhile… no one is checking in on you.

That kind of loneliness builds up over time.

It can lead to burnout. It can lead to depression. It can lead to feeling emotionally disconnected. It can lead to feeling like you're stuck in a deep dark hole with no way to get out.

And it’s exhausting.

Sometimes, You Just Need That Little Bit of Support

Here’s something I want you to know:

You don’t always need a full coaching or therapy session to feel better. (Don't get me wrong coaching is essential for when you want to work through deeper emotions and implement real change. This is more for when you’re further along and just need ongoing support, guidance, or someone in your corner.)

Sometimes what you need is:

• A bit of support

• A bit of advice

• Someone to help you stay grounded

• Someone to remind you that you’re doing okay

• Someone to check in so you don’t feel like you’re doing this alone

Because a lot of the time, it’s not about having a huge breakdown.

It’s about having those small moments where you feel stuck, overwhelmed, unsure, or lonely… and you don’t know who to turn to.

And that’s where having someone in your corner makes a massive difference.

Introducing My Weekly Check-In Membership

This is exactly why I created my new weekly check-in membership.

I’m a single parent coach based in Australia, and I work with single parents all around the world, including the US, UK, Canada, New Zealand, Australia and more.

And I wanted to create something that:

• Supports single parents ongoing

• Tackles the loneliness and isolation

• Gives you someone in your corner

• Is more affordable than full coaching

• Fits into real life (because I know how busy single parenting is)

  
  

This membership is a simple weekly check-in where I message you via email or Instagram (voice message) to see how you’re going, how you’re feeling, and to make sure you’re staying on track.

You can use it however you need to.

Some weeks you might want to ask a question.

Some weeks you might want advice.

Some weeks you might want support through something you’re going through.

Some weeks you might be totally fine, and that’s okay too.

The whole point is that you know someone is there.

That you’re not doing this alone.

No Lock-In. No Pressure. Just Support.

It’s a small monthly fee, there’s no lock-in, and you can cancel anytime.

And as the membership grows and more people join, I’ll be turning it into a tiered program which means even more benefits will be included for everyone involved.

Because I want this to become something that genuinely supports single parents long-term.

If you’re a single parent and you’ve been feeling isolated, overwhelmed, or like you’re managing everything alone… I want you to know you’re not the only one.

And you don’t have to wait until you’re at breaking point to reach out for support.

Sometimes, having someone check in with you weekly, someone who understands single parenting, understands what you’re navigating, and can offer support when you need it, can make all the difference.

If you’d like to join the weekly check-in membership or want more info, jump on the link below.

because honestly you deserve support too.

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