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How Do You Know If You Have Emotionally Detached from Your Coparent
- 1 day ago
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One thing I see quite often with single parents is when they believe that because they’ve accepted the breakup… they’ve fully let go.
But here’s thing this is acceptance and emotional detachment are two very different things.
You can accept that the relationship is over.
You can understand why it ended.
You can even say, “I’m fine with it.”
And still be emotionally tied to your ex in ways you don’t realise.
So what does emotional detachment actually look like?
Let’s break it down.
Signs You’re Starting to Emotionally Detach
You’re not getting triggered every time their name comes up.
You don’t feel the need to constantly prove yourself to them anymore.
You’re genuinely okay being single while you heal and work on yourself instead of rushing
into something new to fill the space.
You’re not forcing a relationship just to avoid loneliness.
You’re not constantly distracting yourself to avoid feeling your emotions.
You’ve actually worked through the hurt, not just pushed it down and told yourself you’re “over it.”
You’re no longer focused on what your ex is doing.
You’re not consumed by who they’re dating or what they’re posting.
You trust that your kids are safe with them. You know they have another parent — and that’s enough.
You’re not stalking their social media or keeping tabs on their life.
You’re not constantly bringing them up in conversations.
You don’t feel like you have to walk on eggshells around them anymore.
Pick-ups and drop-offs don’t fill you with anxiety.
And most importantly…
You’ve learned to focus on YOU.
Your priority is you.
Not your ex.
Not their new partner.
Not what they’re doing.
You.
What Emotional Detachment Really Means
Emotional detachment isn’t about being cold or bitter.
It’s about reclaiming your energy.
It’s about rebuilding your life on your terms.
It’s about choosing growth over resentment.
Happiness over proving a point.
Moving forward over Staying stuck in the past.
And that doesn’t happen overnight.
It takes awareness. It takes intention.
It takes support.
If you’re co-parenting and still feel emotionally hooked, triggered, anxious, reactive, or constantly thinking about what they’re doing, that’s a sign there’s still healing to do.
And that’s okay.
The goal isn’t to pretend you don’t care.
The goal is to care about yourself more.
If you’re ready to emotionally detach from your co-parent and start focusing on you, then click the link below and grab yourself a free chat with me.
Let’s get you out of survival mode and back into your power.
It’s time to rebuild, steady, strong and emotionally free.
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