Stop Looking Back, You're Not Going That Way

When you're fresh out of a breakup, it's so easy to get stuck in your head replaying everything. Why did it happen? Could I have handled things differently? What did I miss? Why won’t they just acknowledge what they did or say sorry?

It’s normal, you’re trying to make sense of something that flipped your whole life upside down. But here’s the truth that can feel uncomfortable at first:

Living in the past keeps you stuck in the pain of it.

You can sit there analysing and replaying every conversation, every argument, every moment… but none of that changes what’s already happened. It doesn’t fix the breakup. It doesn’t rewrite the past. And it doesn’t make moving forward any easier.

All it does is stop you from actually healing.

Why It's Easy to Get Stuck There

Most of the time, it's not that you're really stuck on the breakup, it's the lack of closure.

You want answers.

You want to understand.

You want an apology.

You want them to take responsibility so we can feel seen and validated.

And you know why? Because that's what you would do if the roles were reversed. You’d communicate. You’d talk it out. You’d take accountability.

So you expect that same level of emotional maturity and self-awareness from your ex.

But here’s the problem:

Just because that’s how you would handle it doesn’t mean that’s how they will.

And holding onto the hope that they'll suddenly show up differently keeps you anchored to the very thing you're trying to move through.

The Only Closure That Matters

If they never apologise…If they never explain…If they pretend nothing happened…

You’re still allowed to heal. You’re still allowed to move on. You’re still allowed to be happy, even without the ending you deserved.

Closure doesn’t come from them. Closure comes from you deciding you’re done carrying this.

The moment you stop waiting for the past to make sense, you make space for your future to start.

Let It Be What It Was

You can’t undo the breakup. You can’t force accountability. You can’t get answers from someone who isn’t able or willing to give them.

But what you can do is:

✅ Accept that it’s over

✅ Release the expectation they’ll fix it

✅ Focus your energy where your life is now

✅ Build something better for yourself and your kids

Because your life isn’t behind you. Your future isn’t back there.

Where you’re going matters more than where you’ve been.

And every time you choose yourself, your healing, your peace, your growth, you take one more step forward.

If this is something you feel like you need to work through — if you’re stuck in the past, struggling to let go, and it’s still weighing you down — then this is exactly what I support single parents through every day.

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