Just Because They Moved On Quickly Doesn’t Mean They’re Happier

Let’s talk about something that can really mess with your head after a breakup, especially if you’re a single parent trying to hold it all together.

Your ex moves on fast. Like, barely-out-the-door-before-they’re-in-a-new-relationship fast.

And while you’re there doing the emotional heavy lifting, adjusting to co-parenting, and trying to figure out your next chapter… they’re posting happy couple selfies and acting like life couldn’t be better.

It’s easy to feel like you’re the one who lost. But here’s the truth: just because they moved on quickly doesn’t mean they’re actually happy. In fact, most of the time, it’s just a distraction. A shiny new band-aid slapped over the emotional mess they’re avoiding.

As a Single Parent Coach, I see this all the time. So if this feels a little too familiar, you're not alone, and you’re definitely not crazy for feeling the way you do.

Here’s why their “I’m so over it” vibe probably isn’t what it seems:

1. It’s Not About You — It’s Their Coping Mechanism

Some people can’t stand being alone. They jump into the next thing not because they’re healed, but because they can’t handle being with their own thoughts. New relationship = quick escape from doing any emotional work.

2. Rebound Doesn’t Equal Real

Just because they’ve found someone new doesn’t mean it’s solid or healthy. Rebounds are often all about avoiding reality. It looks like love, but it’s usually just distraction wrapped in chemistry.

3. You’re Only Seeing the Highlight Reel

That cute couple photo? The “best life ever” caption? That’s the curated version of their life. What’s actually going on behind closed doors is anyone’s guess. Overcompensating is real, especially when they’re trying to prove something.

4. They Probably Checked Out Emotionally Ages Ago

If they moved on that quickly, chances are they mentally left the relationship long before it officially ended. That’s not a reflection of your worth, it’s just what emotionally unavailable people do. And newsflash: being with someone new doesn’t magically make them emotionally available.

5. You’ve Got Better Things to Focus On

Their timeline is not your responsibility. Your peace, your healing, and your growth matter more than what they’re posting, doing, or pretending to feel. Comparing your process to theirs is only going to drain you.

Here’s the thing, you’ve got enough going on as a single parent without letting their fake happiness take up space in your head. Let them perform. You’ve got real life to live. You’re doing the real work. The healing. The showing up for your kids, for yourself, and for a future that actually feels good, not just looks good online.

And trust me, that kind of growth? That’s something no rebound can fake.

If you’re tired of feeling like you’re stuck watching their story unfold while yours is on pause… I’m here. Let’s figure out what moving forward looks like for you, on your terms.

If this hit home and you’re ready to stop watching their next chapter and start focusing on your own, let’s talk.

I work with single parents navigating this exact kind of emotional chaos, helping them find clarity, calm, and a way forward that actually works for them.

So if you're needing a bit of extra support to help you through this stage, then let's have a chat, i can help you work through some of the tough questions you keep playing over and over again in your head and we can work together to get the answers your looking for

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